|A thank you card from my netball team mates|
The problem with this word is that it sets people, especially mothers, up for failure. It’s also what I believe is contributing to the rise of post-natal depression, chronic and adrenal fatigue, because it implies that:
- we’ve got a handle on everything and we’re always happy and calm;
- your children never misbehave, and they’re settled and happy all the time;
- you’ve got the picture-perfect relationship and family;
- you’ve got a plan for every day; and
- there’s nothing you can’t do – you’re super human!
Then I worked with my husband in reaffirming what was important to us as a family, and as individuals – this was vitally important for both of us and made us realise that having kids means that some of our plans need to be put on hold for a while, and our focus needs to shift to them, and us as a couple. We also made more of an effort to make time for us as a couple – yes, we’re parents but to be the best parents for our boys we needed to be a happy and loving husband and wife team.